Proactive - A Life Changer

Today I'm gonna talk about a secret. A secret that lies within every single one of you who are reading this article.

Can you recall how you wake up from your bed today? Did you wake up and have the immediate idea of what you are going to do next and how you plan to complete your day? Or did you wake up and allowed your feeling to tell you that you should tug yourselves into the bed for another 10 minutes?

If you wake up with a plan, then congratulations! You are probably a proactive person. How you started your day will be very likely to decide how you are going to finish the rest of your day.

To be proactive means you are in charge of your own life. You make decisions for yourselves, and you take 100% responsibility for the decision. Reactive person is taking a passive stance. They wait for things to happen and response to it with limited choice. Reactive person dislike taking responsibility and they tend to put the blame on others. While reactive people see choices, proactive people create alternatives.

What differentiate proactive people from the rest is the self-awareness they possesses. Proactive people are aware of their feelings and aware of their identity, aware of their stances and positions in all circumstances. Proactive people have principle they hold on to. They have a standard in their heart, what is to be done and what is to be avoided at all costs.

On the contrary, reactive people do not have a target, neither they have a grounded values or principle as an anchor in their lives. They float , they sway from one point to another. They have no picture of who they are, and what they want. They face their lives with limited choices. They act based on how they feel, and their feeling is pretty much depends on how they are treated.

Proactive people are inside-out. They act, present and carry themselves based on their thoughts from within. They are confident but not arrogant. Reactive people are outside-in. What they do depends on how they are treated. For example, when criticized, proactive people will reflect and make correction if necessary or otherwise explain why the critic is untrue, while the reactive people will either label themselves with the criticism and do nothing to improve it, or react violently by raising their voices and shredding tears.

Now, comes to an important point that we all must realize. We are independent. Whether you show more characteristics on the proactive or on the reactive side, everyone of you can choose mindfully to be a proactive person. The first step is to remove the negative from yourselves. Get to know yourselves well so the next time when someone is trying to put a label on you, you have to know who you are. People can hurl all things at you, but you have the definite power to choose your response. They next time someone tries to shout at you, or putting insulting labels on you, instead of feeling sad or angry, remember you have other alternatives. You can choose to be unaffected. Remember: "No one can hurt you unless you consent the person to do so. "

The next time you are in a difficult situation, do not despair. Remember that the key to change the situation is in your hand. You are the center of your world, and the change of your world starts from you. You cannot change how the world is treating you, but you can change how you treat the world. Take immense action, be proactive. Do not wait for things to happen. Instead, make things happen!